Sexual Wellness for Men and Women

Sexual Wellness

Sex isn’t just intercourse or even masturbation, it’s so much more than that, and understanding that is key to having a healthy sexual life. 

Sex and sexuality have been shrouded in many myths and misconceptions that make it hard for most people to have a healthy understanding of sexuality.

What Is Sexual Wellness?

Sexual Wellness is one of the most important parts of your life, as a male or female.

It is related to our overall wellness, the quality of the relationships we nourish, how we feel about ourselves in our own skin, how connected we are to our sexuality – it is related to our total emotional, physical, and relational well-being.

Sexual Wellness is a concept that can be defined by so many things including; recognizing and respecting your sexual rights and those of other people, having unlimited access to sexual health information, education, and care, practicing safe sex and seeking medical care when needed, ability to experience sexual pleasure, satisfaction, and intimacy when you want, being able to communicate about sexual health with others, including your sexual partners and related healthcare providers.

Male Erectile Wellness

Sexual Wellness

Sex is a natural part of life with its own unique advantages to your health that ranges from deepened bonds of intimacy with your partner to a reduction in risk levels for certain diseases. 

Many men tend to shy away from the topic of sexual health and wellness, and may even refuse to discuss it with their peers especially when they have problems regarding sexual wellness.

A healthy sex life involves being able to speak about your sexual health as much as the act of sex itself. As a man, being able to enjoy healthy sex life is the top priority.

Male sexual arousal and consequently erections is mostly complex involving the brain and other parts of the nervous system, hormones, muscles, and blood vessels.

Optimal sexual health in a man involves a healthy amount of libido or sexual desire, and the ability to achieve and sustain a firm erection after sufficient stimulation of any kind.

Erectile Dysfunction (ED), also known as impotence, is the persistent inability to achieve or maintain adequate rigidity of the penis to allow for satisfactory sexual performance. 

ED isn’t something to be ashamed of and is an incredibly common condition with about 10 to 30 million affected men in the United States. It is also age-related due to natural reduction in testosterone levels alongside other physical and emotional contributing factors.

ED can be frustrating, having terrible effects on a man’s self-esteem, health, relationships with others, and overall sense of well-being.

How To Improve Your Erectile Wellness

Some ways to improve your erectile wellness and keep your health in shape include:

Stay Active 

Your cardiovascular endurance levels have an impact on how well you can withstand sex and the overall physical exertion. Staying active ensures that your cardiovascular health is in top shape and can boost your libido.

Reduce Stress Levels

Feelings of stress and anxiety can affect your libido and ability to sustain an erection. Being constantly anxious, especially about sex distracts you from your ability to perform and be fully engaged in the act both mentally and physically.

Destressing in the best ways that you can is a helpful way to boost your erectile function.

Your Diet Matters

Your diet is also a part of your sexual and erectile wellness. Certain foods are great for improving blood flow including onions, bananas, chilis, and peppers. Others that help your nervous system and even balance your hormone levels include; peanuts, eggs, fish like salmon, and tuna.

Smoking and alcohol also have effects on sexual health and while a little red wine may help to improve circulation, excess amounts of alcohol have negative effects on erectile function.

Stimulants have also been linked to impotence and replacing these unhealthy habits with healthy meals and snacks can boost your sexual health.

Communicate More

It takes two to tango, and so communicating needs, feelings, expectations, and emotions with your partner may help to build confidence and make you more comfortable during sexual activities. 

Being more comfortable and focused on you and your partner helps your sexual and erectile function, making sex a more enjoyable experience and improving your ability to achieve and maintain erections for as long as you’d like.

Other Therapies

There are other medical treatments used in treating erectile dysfunction to ensure that your sexual health and wellness are top-notch. At Chic La Vie Medical Spa and Laser Institute, your complete sexual wellness is a priority to us. Our team offers a wide variety of treatments to effectively boost erectile function, ability to achieve and sustain erections, and ultimately improve your sex life.

Hormonal Balance and Restoration 

Your sex drive and sexual function are mostly influenced by hormones and as you age, hormonal levels begin to drop. Certain medical conditions can also affect your hormonal balance, affecting your libido and erectile function. Hormonal treatments and balancing can help in regulating your hormone levels and getting your sex drive back on track.

Female Orgasmic Wellness

For most women, orgasms aren’t a regular occurrence during sexual activities and they don’t realize it’s supposed to be. Generally, only about one-third of women achieve an orgasm during sex, often needing direct clitoral stimulation while the number for men is way higher, partly because of their anatomy and psyche. For some women, it’s more of a disorder called ‘Female Orgasmic Disorder.’

Female Orgasmic Disorder refers to a difficulty, lack of or delays in sexual climax, or infrequent or much less intense organs even in the presence of willingness, sufficient sexual stimulation, mental and emotional arousal.

For Female Orgasmic Disorder to be diagnosed, the condition must bother the woman. Many women with this disorder usually have other associated or none associated sexual issues which may include painful sex, involuntary muscle contractions around the opening of the vagina when entry is attempted(vaginismus) among others.

Sometimes, they can’t experience orgasms even during masturbation and high arousal levels and this mostly leads to a dislike for anything sexual or resentment towards their partners for not satisfying them.

What Factors Contribute To Female Orgasmic Disorder?

In some situations, physical and psychological factors can contribute to orgasmic disorders. Some of them include;

  • Sex with someone who ejaculates too quickly before the woman is sufficiently aroused consistently.
  • Insufficient Foreplay
  • Insufficient sexual knowledge or understanding of genital organs in any of the partners
  • Hormonal Insufficiency
  • Poor Sexual Communication
  • Relationship Problems
  • Anxiety about Sexual Performance
  • Previous sexual abuse or sex-related trauma
  • Psychological disorders like anxiety and depression
  • Physical disorders that affect the nervous system include diabetes, multiple sclerosis, spinal cord injuries, etc
  • Drugs like Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors, an antidepressant class, may specifically inhibit orgasms.

How To Improve Female Orgasmic Wellness


Being mindful starts with yourself and how you’re able to change your mindset towards your body and sexual activities.

Getting comfortable with your body, how you look, and finding things to love about yourself ensures that you’re not bothered about how you look during sex. Also, getting familiar with the concept of sex means you’re able to relax better during sex without letting your anxiety get out of control.

Lifestyle Changes

Alcohol and smoking have side effects of reducing sexual performance and consequently, orgasms are a problem.

Reducing your alcohol intake and quitting smoking is a great start to finding solutions to improve your sex life, increase your libido and work towards optimal sexual wellness.

Self Stimulation

For some women, not knowing their bodies properly means that they don’t know what works for them or what will work during sex. Knowing your body intimately allows you to recognize your erogenous zones and what makes you tick. 

Masturbation can help you recognize those points, what works better, what turns you off, and what is more likely to push you over the edge. Armed with this knowledge and communicating it to your partner, sex can become a more interesting experience and you’re more likely to experience those orgasms you want.

Sensate Focus Exercises

Sensate Focus Exercises are great for partners to understand each other and what provokes pleasure better in both of them. It involves a series of non-sexual and sexual touching exercises that help them improve their intimacy and relearn each other’s pleasure points.

Psychological Therapies

These are designed to help women identify and manage their anxiety regarding sexual performance and trusting their partners.

Chic La Vie Medical Spa and Laser Institute aim to help women achieve complete sexual wellness. This can be done through psychological therapy options like:

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy
  • Sex Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be used for women with psychological disorders related to sex or a history of sexual abuse. It helps them identify and manage their fear of vulnerability, trust issues and helps them to have better sexual experiences that can lead to orgasms.

Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy involves helping them to focus on happenings at the moment and pay attention to the sexual sensations they are feeling without being judgemental or anxious about what they are experiencing.

Sex Therapy helps women and their partners identify and solve problems affecting their sexual life including any specific sexual problems or disorders and partner problems.